Every Man’s Battle Podcast
with New Life
She’s Not Punishing You—She’s in Pain: Triggers, Shame, and the 3 Ps of Responding Well
Monday, June 22, 2026
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟐𝟓 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In Episode 25, JJ West and Doug Barnes welcome betrayal‑trauma specialist Laura Mangin‑MacDonald to tackle one of the toughest questions husbands ask: “When she’s triggered, how do I respond—and not make it worse?” Laura explains what a trigger really is (a God‑designed nervous‑system alarm after betrayal), why wives can’t just “get over it,” and why many men react from little‑boy shame with defensiveness, fixing, or fleeing.You’ll learn:Why your wife’s triggers are a normal neurobiological response to an abnormal betrayal—and why she is not trying to punish you, but desperately trying to feel safe and connect.How your own shame and trauma fuel unhelpful reactions, and how to use the 3 Ps—Pause, Pursue, Provide—to stay present, move toward her, and offer real empathy instead of quick solutions.Practical examples and “MVP” statements you can use before anniversaries, trips, or everyday triggers to show you’re paying attention and owning the pain your choices caused.🎟 Use code 𝐄𝐌𝐁𝐏𝐎𝐃 to save $100 when you register for the Every Man’s Battle Intensive, and ask about Restore and other betrayal‑healing experiences so both of you have support as you heal.📧 𝐁𝐎𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐂𝐎𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐍𝐓 & 𝐋𝐈𝐒𝐓𝐄𝐍𝐄𝐑 𝐐𝐔𝐄𝐒𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒Want extra content to encourage your integrity, delivered via email each month? 👉 Email [email protected] with “Bonus Content” in the subject line.To send questions or topic requests for future episodes:👉 Email [email protected] with “Podcast Question” in the subject line.☎️ Need help applying this in your own marriage?👉 Call 800‑NEW‑LIFE or visit NewLife.com for:Sexual integrity counseling for men.Every Man’s Battle intensives.Restore workshops and online experiences for wives experiencing betrayal trauma.Ongoing recovery and Life Recovery groups.🎟 𝐒𝐓𝐄𝐏𝐒 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐂𝐀𝐍 𝐓𝐀𝐊𝐄 𝐀𝐅𝐓𝐄𝐑 𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐒 𝐄𝐏𝐈𝐒𝐎𝐃𝐄If this episode exposed how easily you get defensive when your wife is triggered:Attend the Every Man’s Battle Intensive3‑day workshop for men seeking freedom from porn, affairs, and sexual addiction, led by licensed Christian counselors.Helps you understand your shame, your wife’s trauma, and how to rebuild trust with empathy and ownership.Invite your wife to Restore or related betrayal‑healing offeringsIn‑person intensives and online experiences for women affected by betrayal, offering trauma‑informed tools and community.Join an ongoing recovery groupNew Life’s men’s recovery and Life Recovery groups give you weekly practice in pausing, naming your shame, and showing up differently at home.Scholarships are often available; ask about assistance when you call 800‑NEW‑LIFE.Use code 𝐄𝐌𝐁𝐏𝐎𝐃 to save $100 when you register for Every Man’s Battle.🎧 Listen & subscribe:👉 Every Man’s Battle Podcast hub: https://newlife.com/podcasts/every-mans-battle/👉 New Life LIVE & other New Life podcasts: https://newlife.com/podcasts/#EveryMansBattle #BetrayalTrauma #WhenShesTriggered #EmpathyInMarriage #SexualIntegrity #NewLifeMinistries
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